Email Question: My Wife Wants Me Out!

I got another e-mail today from a man that needs help getting back his wife.  I’m not going to paste the exact email sent for confidential reasons, but basically his wife left him after many years of marriage.

In the email, he mentions how he never cheated on her – but he has damaged her emotionally and psychologically.  I don’t know exactly what he did, but she has decided that he needs to leave and they need to separate.  It’s a sad situation and I can tell that this guy is really bummed out about it.

Here is my response to his email:

Hey ________,
Your situation really sucks and unfortunately at this point, you need to take my advice that I’ve been writing and continue to give her more space. Remember, it took me 6 months for me and my wife to get back together. It could take you that long or more.

So, you need to do what she asks. She’s telling you to leave – so pack your things and leave.  Don’t start an argument, don’t piss her off, just say ok and leave.

I think you should continue not calling or texting for at least a couple of weeks.  It seems that she really wants some time away from her.

You mentioned that she did call and text you while you weren’t calling or texting her.  That is great!  It’s what I’ve been teaching guys to do because it really works.  By not having any sort of communication with her, you’re making her miss you.  So, continue to do that for now and meet up with her when she requests.  Don’t be begging to see her.

Now if you don’t hear from her for a month or so, send a short and simple text eg. “Hey, I wanted you to know that I’m thinking of you. Hope all is well.” If she doesn’t respond then she doesn’t respond. Don’t text her back if that’s the case. Just wait another week or so and text her again with something similar

I hope some of this helps you out man, it’s gonna be rough. I went through what you’re going through and the best advice I can offer is for you to keep improving yourself and your life. Women love that.

- Raul

I want to go over a few things here – he followed my advice and decided to give her some space.  She ended up calling him back and they got together for a cup of coffee.  I’m hoping that their relationship can get back on track again!

The part that troubles me is he said he damaged her both emotionally and psychologically.  Some women never repair from these things.  You guys need to remember that women are emotional creatures and are hurt very easily even by the slightest of things!

Don’t have that attitude to piss off your loved one just because they did something to you.  Real men have got tough skin (not wimpy like San Fran homos) and we can take quite a beating of words with little affect.  Women are the opposite.  Keep that in mind.

Thanks for reading guys and keep those emails coming.  I personally respond to every single one and I make it an effort to post the good ones on my blog to help others like yourself going through the same thing.

Talk soon,

Raul

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